Time Is a Precious Commodity

Time is a precious commodity. It is a gift we are all given with no prejudice. I assume you’ve heard the common phrase, “All things heal with time.” During my younger years, I blindly believed in curt phrases such as that. However, over time, I’ve discovered that such phrases reveal only a small part of a much larger truth.

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Yes, time can play a factor in healing any wound, but for wounds to fully heal, many more elements must work in sync with that one element of time. And what those additional factors are depends on the wound in question.

On a previous blog, https://www.crystalmmhuntley.com/revealing-the-best-way-to-gain-strength-from-wounds/, I posted the statement, “Hurt people hurt people.” Just like the first phrase “All things heal with time,” I also believe truth exists in this second statement . . . that is, to an extent. However, like almost everything in this world, no truth can accurately be summed up in a simple catch phrase. There’s always a much larger, deeper meaning.

I learned that phrase, “hurt people hurt people,” long ago. At that moment, it hit me like a light bulb turning on as I saw the truth within its concept. The phrase had a profound impact on me, and I even used it in my first book, The Hidden Diamond. Within the context in which I use it for that story, that statement worked. I’m grateful that I continue to mature, learn, and heal as I age. And as a result of my growth, sometimes, things I once held as absolute truth no longer contain the meanings I once believed them to have.

Changes that Growth Provides

As I grow, heal, and learn, I’ve come to discover that there’s much more to the simple, one-dimensional phrase of “hurt people hurt people.” Like most things in life, the truth within those words resides in an individual’s choice.

I still believe that hurt people often do hurt people. I have both witnessed and been a recipient of hurt people inflicting the most harm when they remained blind to their wounds, refusing to face them and heal. When a wounded person builds a habit of stuffing their past, like Aldous from The Hidden Diamond did, those wounds tend to find another way to come out. And that escape route, more often than not, includes the infliction of abuse on others. But the good news is that this doesn’t have to happen.

Good News

No absolute truth exists in the phrase, “hurt people hurt people,” just like no absolute truth exists in the phrase, “time heals all wounds.” Sometimes, hurt people make the conscious choice to spend their gifted time here on earth to heal and move beyond their wounds.

I began the process of making that choice in my twenties. At a young age, I became a mother and had four children by the time I was thirty. With the birth of each of my children, my eyes opened a bit more to the buried truth of my own childhood and the extent of abuse that I had encountered.

A person doesn’t know what they don’t know, and having grown up in isolation, I had no reference point to recognize that how my parents had raised me wasn’t ideal, like they had led me to believe. But somewhere deep inside, I knew that the things my parents had done to my older sister and me were wrong. So, I refused to repeat their methods with my children and did everything I could to learn the right way to raise them. The only way I could succeed was to make my healing a priority, which meant uncovering and facing the truth.

Time Is a Precious Commodity

I wanted my children to have what I never had: unconditional love and true acceptance of who God created them to be, without having to conform to a persona dictated by someone else. I wanted my children to feel safe and secure. I used the precious commodity of time and committed to breaking those inherited, rigid chains of abuse. I dedicated myself to turning my past pain into purpose. In this way, not only would my children never suffer as I had, but I, a hurt person, could use my past experiences as tools to help other wounded people heal.

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. – Genesis 50:20 (NIV)

This goes back to another strong belief I live my life by, that God is the master of turning what was once intended for bad into something good. https://crystalmmhuntley.com/2024/11/how-to-find-blessings-out-of-tragedy/.

Reject Shame

I feel that we should never be ashamed of past beliefs. That is, if we keep our minds open to growth and are willing to add further understanding to what we once held as truth. Sometimes that further growth even includes a complete change of position on a topic. In my viewpoint, becoming stagnant is one of the greatest tragedies that could happen to a person.

All wounds heal, and all things broken can be mended, not with time, but with intention. When we consciously place our intention on healing, past wounds begin to lose their power. Talking to someone about what we have been through can be healing, but transforming our pain into power requires action.

A part of that action often involves having the courage to forgive. Yet, just like there is a much deeper meaning to the two curt phrases this blog focuses on, the same can be said for forgiveness. A commonly stated phrase on forgiveness is, “Forgive and forget.” To that, I say “NO!” Never forget. We learn from our past. Remembering what actions lead to what results is crucial if we are not to repeat harmful events, and moving forward. Instead of “forgive and forget,” forgive with understanding. Understanding builds a healthy form of power that can act as building blocks for growth.

I ask you to consider the pointed statements you have lived your life by. Do those statements reflect the whole truth, or is there a deeper understanding waiting to be explored?

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To further support your healing journey, I’ve added a direct access hotline/resource page to my website. Find it at https://crystalmmhuntley.com/resources/.

Writing is my passion. It is also an excellent healing tool. The beauty of fiction is that it allows you to create outcomes that don’t exist in the everyday world. This is why I have chosen to write my book in this genre. I pray that all who indulge in my written creations find entertainment and enjoyment. I also pray that you become inspired to move forward in your healing journey. May all who indulge in my written creations find entertainment, enjoyment, and inspiration to move forth in your healing journey.

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***The Hidden Diamond*** – Immerse yourself in a journey that uncovers the worth of a wounded soul amongst a lifetime of sin.

***Robin’s Gift*** – Lost and alone, Natalie’s biggest dream is to fulfill her desire to be loved. A tragic accident calls her home. Can she return and face her greatest fear?

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