Are you too old to learn? How to fearlessly trust that you are never too old to learn or to seek help. Aldous from The Hidden Diamond and Harold from Robin’s Gift believed their advanced age set them in their ways, making them incapable of change. Could they turn around their flawed beliefs? Discover that answer within my books.
Trust Issues
Trust issues, due to my past, have made it difficult for me to ask for help. This tendency has often frustrated my sweetie, as he frequently declares, “I’m right here! All you need to do is ask me.” I am still learning he is sincere in his desire to offer me aid. Regardless of how much healing a person has done, some areas stubbornly persist. For me, this is one of those areas.
Over the years, I have developed a system of stumbling through things to make a way on my own. Because life taught me a misconception that this is how it must be, subsequently, this lie forged my way of being. It has taken many challenging years of hard work to pull myself out from under many layers of such deceit.
Countless experiences throughout my lifetime make up these weighted layers. Like peeling an onion, I had to pull back each layer, one at a time. My parents created most of those layers. They formed much of them from their expectation that I always behave with adult maturity, even as young as my preschool years. We lived in elegant houses with pricey furnishings surrounding us. Yet Mother and Father insisted they could not afford to provide me anything beyond the bare necessities.
Finding Strength Within Hardships
In time, this hardship, inflicted upon me by my parents, developed into a strength. It taught me how to press forward and make good with what I have. As a result, I’ve gained skills in areas that number more than average. I acquired enough skills to get things done by myself. However, this is not an ability I naturally gained, for I tried countless times to seek help, but to no avail.
When Halloween came around during my grade school years, I knew better than to ask for a costume. My parents would consider a purchase like that as wasted money. So, I ventured into the attic and rummaged through boxes of forgotten items. Each year, I created a unique costume that I felt proud to wear from what I had found.
One year, I went out dressed as the Statue of Liberty. My creative efforts won me the Best Costume Award at the Halloween party our local school system always put on. Three years later, I went as Pippy Longstocking. Since I had nothing to collect candy in that year, I colored an old pillowcase to mirror my character. On the upside, overcoming such an obstacle taught me self-sufficiency. Yet every mountain a person scales comes with a downside. My downside enwrapped my onion in additional layers with each costume I created, enforcing the harmful belief that I could only rely on myself.
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More Layers Added On
In fifth grade, a girl in my class, day after day, harassed me. The day she ripped up my class assignment, I knew I needed help. So, I went to our school counselor, feeling sure he would guide me in handling this matter. As I revealed everything about my trouble, he looked back at me with a blank stare. He finally spoke, “So what do you expect me to do?” Another thick layer adhered tightly around my onion that day.
Year after year, layers continued to pile on, each new skin formed thicker than the last. As a result of all those accumulated layers, I concluded that figuring things out on my own produced much better and safer results than seeking help.
However, within every shroud of trial is a lace with a golden thread. The thread woven within my situation is the multiple areas where I gained skills. I suppose I am one of those people with accumulated knowledge of much but is an expert of none.
Rejoice
As a result of what I’ve experienced, I found truth in Romans 5:3-4 (TLB) “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us—they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady.”
The blessing comes in verse 5. “Then, when that happens, we are able to hold our heads high no matter what happens and know that all is well, for we know how dearly God loves us, and we feel this warm love everywhere within us because God has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
Bit by bit, I have been peeling that monumental-sized onion. It has proven to be challenging work, but like any worthy cause, it remains well worth its effort. When I venture off into new areas, as a default, I tend to click into the panicked thought that I must figure everything out on my own. It often takes time to consider that help exists and find good quality help.
Accepting Help
I went through this cycle as I marketed my books. Finally, after much struggle, I feel my Savior led me to a handful of people who have begun to help me. Karen Sargent https://karensargent.com did a superb job leading a book launch for my second book, Robin’s Gift. Also, Barbara Kompik with https://bkbookshoppe.com is giving me excellent guidance on marketing my books, Robin’s Gift and The Hidden Diamond.
As I typed out this blog, In the background, I had a radio set on K-LOVE, a Christian music station. I came to the part where I began to focus on asking for aid, and Anne Wilson’s song “Strong” Anne Wilson – Strong (Official Performance Lyric Video) – Bing video played. It gave me a Divine reminder that “I can’t do this on my own.” I find my strength through my Savior, Jesus Christ.
Inevitably, life will teach us a smorgasbord of lies. We cannot escape its excessive deceit. Yet we all possess within ourselves the key to pull us out. “In reality, the truth of God is known instinctively, for God has embedded this knowledge inside every human heart. (Romans 1:19) (TPT).
Instinctively, I know that particular song played in that instant to reinforce within me that God never meant us to be alone. It is good to reach out and seek help. If we ask for it, God will provide. It might not come in ways we expect or even at our desired timeframe, but it will come. Luke 22:45 tells us to stay awake and alert. Do not fall asleep.
Note To My Readers
Hopefully, you have gained value from this blog post. If you have, I would like to offer you the opportunity to purchase my books. You can buy The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift at BUY-the-BOOK https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-. Two additional sites where you can find my books are https://bkbookshoppe.com and https://bizybookstore.com.
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Advancing My Healing Journey A Reinterpretation Back to the Basics Blessings Surround Us Boundaries Breaking Out Breathe into the space of peace. Christmas Complex CPTSD Don’t Get Stuck. Excerpt from The Hidden Diamond Free Giveaway From Robin’s Gift Glorify God Through Your Challenges. Happenings or Interpretations? Hiding From Ourselves Hope Invite Listen to the Soft Whisper. Master New Skills Note To My Readers Resources Robin’s Gift Robin’s Gift – A Sneak Peak Rock Climbing Seek Understanding Shame Has No Place Summer’s Story Surrender Surrendering Take a Step Back. Take the Challenge The Choice Is Yours The Commitment to Braking Chains of Abuse The Gift of New Perspective The Hidden Diamond The Still Small Voice To My Readers Unhealed Wounds Unwittingly Harm Others. Upcoming Posts Use Caution We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know. What Is Your Lesson? Why I Write You Are Worthy!
