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Is Someone Your Enemy?

Is Someone Your Enemy?

Is Someone Your Enemy? Many have mistakenly labeled another as their enemy or even placed all human beings in this category. When shining a light on the occurrences of one person being harmed by another, this association becomes understandable. Yet people are not our enemies; however, often, their actions are.

We are each responsible for our actions. Yet, when remembering this, be kind to yourself. An abused child had the misfortune of being modeled abuse. Victims of abuse often see abusive actions as normal behavior. Keep in mind that we don’t know what we don’t know.

Early on, somewhere deep within me, I knew that Mother and Father’s methods of parenting me were wrong, but as I brought up my children, I had to work hard to discover what was right. This actively searched-out discovery was necessary to raise effective, healthy, functional children. In some ways, I succeeded, yet I am sad to say, not in all ways, because it was impossible to shield my children from their father’s abuse.

If you have suffered through an abusive childhood and see your parents’ behavior as unacceptable yet find that you have carried a similar method of existence into your adult life, don’t shame yourself. The path to discovery looks different to each person. Your moment to change and break the chains of abuse arrives once you reach this monumental fork in the road.

Not All Choose to Heal.

Not all of us choose the healing path. Blake, whose name I have changed, has endured much abuse in his childhood. However, from his teenage years on, he received the fortune of guidance from therapists and loved ones to help him heal and learn how to live a quality life free from abuse.

However, Blake refused such help to change from the abusive ways modeled by his mother. Instead, he became a toxic person, sucking dry the life force of anyone who attempted to draw near to him and lend a helping hand.

To heal from extreme abuse like what Blake has experienced, it often becomes necessary to pull within for some time; however, it is critical not to remain in that self-centered space for long. Too much time spent pulled within, wrapped in your own concerns, quickly becomes destructive. A proven method to step out of this inward world is to integrate the value of giving into your life. I once heard it said to let your need be to help those in need.

Is Someone Your Enemy?
Is Someone Your Enemy?

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Blake exists from a place of self-centeredness. He has had quality resources to help him recover for over a decade, yet instead of healing, Blake holds onto resentment’s corrosive perspective. He lives his life nurturing an attitude of entitlement, always taking yet never giving. As a result, Blake lives his days trapped in loneliness and depression. Only by intentionally stepping into change will he find peace and joy and become a functional, contributing person to society.

We all have the gift of choice. I clearly remember when Blake opened his eyes to the truth, yet he chose the path of dysfunction. As a result, Blake passes abuse onto others, adding more links to this far-too-often perpetual chain.

Is Someone Your Enemy?

Blake is not alone in having been modeled abuse. The person I will use the name of Rex for also learned dysfunction and even abuse from his parents. Rex had to wait until much later in his lifetime to receive help to see another way of existence. But as soon as help arrived, Rex grabbed it and worked hard to transform his ways. He saw the hardships his parents endured as enemies instead of his parents. He humbled himself, asking for forgiveness for the dysfunction he had passed on to others, and moved forward to become an outstanding person for society.

I wrote more about this topic in some of my previous blog posts, including https://www.crystalmmhuntley.com/do-you-know-how-to-see-someone-differently/ and https://crystalmmhuntley.com/2024/06/do-you-know-how-to-find-freedom-from-your-perspective/.

How to Help Someone Out of Abuse

If you know someone trapped in abuse, here are tips to help them.

A crucial step for any victim to heal is feeling like someone cares enough to listen to them and understand. But to comprehend their plight, you first must genuinely listen. Quiet your mind and tune into your inner self, and you will hear answers carried on your breath, the voice of your soul.

Because of God, you are unlimited. So you can heal and move beyond whatever you have endured. Because of God, you are unlimited. So, you can hear and follow that voice of your soul, the Holy Spirit speaking to you.

“Spirit [comes to us and] helps us in our weakness. We do not know what prayer to offer or how to offer it as we should, but Spirit [knows our need and at the right time] intercedes on our behalf.” (Romans 8:26, AMP)

So, how do you help someone so withdrawn that they cannot help themselves? It is common for a friend to feel helpless when attempting to provide support. Take the time to be there and let them know you care. This small act is often the best starting point in helping a survivor.

If they are not ready to open up and share, let them know you will be available to listen when they are prepared to talk. Let your quiet presence provide the support they need and create a safe space. “How can I be there for you?” is always a good place to start. The path of healing looks different to each person. Respect their journey. When they are ready to talk, listen without judgment. Be prepared to give them a list of support options and resources like hotline numbers, shelters, and therapy services.

Updated List of Hotline Numbers & Websites

Always remember that, ultimately, the abused person is the only person responsible for their own healing. If they are not ready or receptive to receiving help, no matter how much effort you put into trying to help them, it will do nothing.

I invite you to join me next time as I cover restoring trust and joy after deception.

Note to My Readers

Hopefully, you have gained value from this blog post. If you have, I would like to offer you the opportunity to purchase my books. You can purchase The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift here at BUY THE BOOK – Crystal MM Huntley.

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