Why forgive even the most unforgivable? I understand that for many of us, it can be extremely difficult. Even so, forgiveness holds a pivotal element to healing.
My posts over the past ten weeks have covered a sensitive topic. Within those entries, I shared intimate details from forty-six years of abuse I had endured. Regardless of my past, I refuse to allow such abuse to destroy my life and have fought hard to overcome it. As a result, I’ve used my experiences as a base to write my fiction books. So far, I have written two, The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift.
If you have read my books, within their pages, you will find the final key to freedom from an abusive past. However, by freedom, I don’t mean all effects of abuse are wiped clean. On the contrary, if you take the healing journey, you will follow its path for the rest of your lifetime. However, its payoff is well worth the effort.
Walking this trail brings innumerable rewards with each step taken leading to greater peace. But, don’t get me wrong, this journey is not easy. Every stride I lumbered through uncovered something I had buried for a reason. To sum it up, what I had repressed caused more pain than, at that time, I could bear. This type of scenario is often the case when trapped in an abusive situation, such as a child. However, we have more power than we realize, so reach inside of you and grasp ahold of that abiding power.
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Only through God is true strength gained. So grasp onto your Savior and follow His guidance. Trust that His mighty hand will guide you through your hardships, whatever they may be.
Why Do I Forgive?
The key to taking hold of that power is forgiveness. Within The Hidden Diamond, you will discover a journey out of abuse that leads to forgiveness, and in Robin’s Gift, Natalie finds the courage to forgive her past. By holding onto anger and resentment toward another person, you submit your power to them. In doing this, you keep them in the position of a villain who destroys your life.
Forgiveness takes back that power. It reclaims your life. Many have asked how I can forgive those who did such atrocious, unspeakable things to me. They don’t realize that I am not choosing forgiveness for those who abused me. On the contrary, I choose to forgive them for me. By forgiving, I take hold of that final key that leads me toward freedom and joy.
Grace
Our good Lord blesses us with the gift of grace. Jesus gave His life to forgive us every one of our sins. That includes those of our enemies, even our abuser. If God gave His life for our abuser’s sins, then who are we to reject God’s gift and hold grievances? God offers us grace every day. In response to my Savior’s goodness, I must show those who have abused me grace through forgiveness.
A Different Light
Nobody gets through life unscathed, and no one is born an abuser. Also, no one automatically becomes an abuser. Something monumental must have happened to send them down such a destructive path. Remembering this helps me forgive those who have harmed me. With this in mind, choosing resentment over forgiveness places us at risk of stumbling down that same path. Those poisons lead to actions that turn an innocent person into an abuser.
I have had the privilege of learning prevalent details of my mother’s and father’s backgrounds. With my mother, those glimpses revealed elements from her past that she buried, minimizing their significance. Stuffing emotions and repressing memories is no different than burying toxic waste. In time, it leaches to the surface, polluting the topsoil with poisons.
Every one of us has the potential to become an abuser if we do not adequately handle contaminations that enter our lives. Forgiveness unearths those contaminants and properly disposes them in ways that do not cause harm.
Forgiveness Does Not Mean to Forget.
The phrase “forgive and forget” can be downright harmful. Here is an example. If we stick our hand into a lion’s cage, the beast might bite it off. We can forgive the animal—however, we have a right and obligation to protect ourselves from further harm. To do that, remembering the nature of the wild beast shields us from further suffering. It is the same with people.
A person who abuses will do so because of a lifetime of wounds that have formed them. As a result, their actions become their nature. Wise forgiveness frees a victim from their abuser. It does not repeatedly set them in situations to become prey.
Another Reason to Forgive
Another reason to forgive is that holding onto resentment will rob you of joy. Our savior wants us to be joyous and not spend our days suffering.
I Thessalonians 5:16-18 “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Did you catch that? God wants us to be happy! That is His will for us. To hold onto such happiness, even in times of sorrow, we must keep a channel open to its source. That source is our Lord.
During my childhood, my parents taught me it is shameful to rejoice because it dishonors all those who, at that very moment in time, suffer. Their teaching is a perfect example of twisting the truth, an element of religious abuse. https://crystalmmhuntley.com/2024/02/religious-abuse-can-you-see-the-signs/.
Note To My Readers
Hopefully, you have gained value from this blog post. If you have, I would like to offer you the opportunity to purchase my books. You can buy The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift at BUY-the-BOOK https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-. Two additional sites where you can find my books are https://bkbookshoppe.com and https://bizybookstore.com.
Each purchase of my books supports my mission to help those trapped in abuse break those chains and find their way to freedom while drawing closer to their Maker. Once you have read either of my books, feel free to leave a review on the site you purchased from. Your review will encourage others also to seek out the path of healing.
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