Can you see yourself in this description? You know the type—those who are afraid of life. These people project who they are through their body stance. They quietly stand with rounded shoulders, arms tightly wrapped in front of them as if protecting their inner core. I know this way of existence well because, for years, it was me. However, after decades of remaining silent, I found my voice. And with that ability to speak up, my shoulders rolled back, and my body unfolded.
The number of men and women touched by abuse surpasses the amount of those who haven’t. In keeping silent, we, by default, support the crime. Speak out and join the countless voices actively seeking healing.
I dedicate a significant chunk of my daily life to the support of others to heal. That is why I write. It is my mission and worth my effort if my work helps even one soul take the steps to be set free.
Advancing My Healing Journey
A whisper lately has encouraged me to step forward to a higher level of healing. I believe that whisper is God’s still small voice, https://crystalmmhuntley.com/2023/05/how-to-let-the-soft-whisper-guide-your-way/. Not everyone is comfortable with my conclusion. With that being the case, I invite you to interpret it in whatever way supports you best. Nonetheless, I heeded that whisper, unable to ignore its urge to up my ability to forgive. Consequently, the time has come for my next step in healing. To make this advancement, I must extend more earnest forgiveness to the one perpetrator who cut the deepest wounds in me.
As multiple of my previous posts have stated, healing with forgiveness occurs in stages. I would whisper prayers blessing everyone, including those who have harmed me. Yet, I could not utter this particular name. I couldn’t hear or see it without a surge of fear, pain, and even anger slicing through me. When this occurred, I tempered those feelings by silently praying for God to bless all my enemies. Yet, for my protection, I kept this perpetrator unnamed.
Until we can fully forgive, we remain captive to our abusers. With this in mind, it didn’t matter how hard I tried. I could not avoid exposure to this man’s name. I would see it in movie credits or hear it spoken on TV. The few letters that made up his short name would appear in other words. I had physically escaped his bondage in 2012, yet he still held a part of me captive. Forgiving and letting go will take away the control an abuser has over their victim. Only then can true healing occur.
The Still Small Voice
Back to that whisper telling me it is time to learn an advanced level of forgiveness. To succeed, I need to use my abuser’s name. Because every time I flinched at the sound or sight of his name, I defer power to him. Remaining in such captivity separates us from God.
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I called upon my Savior for strength and, for the first time, uttered a prayer of blessing for this abuser. And when I did, I used his full name. However, I will keep his name out of this blog for anonymity.
Healing is a process that takes time and forgiving is a paramount component in that process. I wove an element of forgiveness throughout my book The Hidden Diamond to help you take that crucial step toward healing. I also included this theme in my upcoming book, Robin’s Gift, due to be out in print within the first quarter of 2024.
The Choice Is Yours
The wounds an abuser places on their victim become a core element of who that person matures into. Everything existing within God’s astounding world can be used for good or evil. In the same way, every aspect of your life, whether good or bad, creates who you are today. It is up to you to choose how to use what you were given. Will you use your experiences to build yourself up or to tear yourself down and turn you bitter?
Note To My Readers
Join me next week as I reveal ways to find peace in a troubled world. I welcome questions and comments on any of my blogs. May all who indulge in my written creations find entertainment, enjoyment, and education. I also hope to inspire you to move forth in your healing journey.
Hopefully, you have gained value from this blog post. If you have, I would like to offer you the opportunity to purchase my books. You can buy The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift at BUY-the-BOOK https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-. Two additional sites where you can find my books are https://bkbookshoppe.com and https://bizybookstore.com.
Each purchase of my books supports my mission to help those trapped in abuse break those chains and find their way to freedom while drawing closer to their Maker. Once you have read either of my books, feel free to leave a review on the site you purchased from. Your review will encourage others also to seek out the path of healing. We all know someone who needs a gentle push to approach this sensitive topic. Maybe that someone is you. The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift provide a perfect, safe avenue. I invite you to join the multitudes who have discovered the value within the covers of my books. With Christmas just around the corner, consider purchasing a copy for yourself and a second as a gift for another.
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