Have you ever wondered how to love a difficult person? Aldous, our main character in The Hidden Diamond, exemplifies a difficult person to love. As this story evolves, you will discover why. How can we love someone who has caused great pain? How do you remain safe around a person with compromised standards? Answers will differ for each of you and each unique circumstance, but the need for healthy boundaries remains constant for us all.
In The Hidden Diamond, Dakota’s parents face this dilemma. They must find a way to reach out to an unsafe, unlovable neighbor while creating safe boundaries for their child.
Aldous
I created Aldous by conglomerating three dominant people from my past. Consequently, this story mirrors my life. However, I did not receive protection like Dakota had. As a result, I have had to trudge through the often lonely path of healing.
I wrote The Hidden Diamond in first-person to draw my readers into my perpetrator’s mind. With this advantage, it is easier to remember that he, too, is a beloved child of God. All God’s creations are good and filled with Devine Love. It takes a barrage of wounds to plaster hatred over that Diamond heart. The only way to make it Hidden.
Many “Aldouses” have entered my life.
A photo of one of these Aldous-like people sits on my mantel. I did this to keep myself in a state of forgiveness. I do not endorse everyone engaging in this form of radical forgiveness, but for me, it helps. For decades, I could not have considered such an unconventional action. I am grateful that after much grueling healing work, I have evolved to where I now can.
This portrait displays a still-innocent young man. It sits in this prominent position as a constant reminder that regardless of sin, he is a child of God. He also remained beloved by his mother, someone I dearly revere. When alive, she lacked awareness of his crimes. If she had known, she would have loved him anyway. A mother who loves their children as God calls us to never casts them aside. With a forgiving heart, we ache for our children to seek God, the only way to unbury our inner Diamond.
Life’s path is not to be walked in isolation.
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No one ever does. Even when we feel utterly alone, Jesus stays with us along our trial-riddled journey.
Since the beginning of time, people have puzzled over the baffling question of our purpose. The clear answer is to love as Jesus loves. We cannot do this disconnected from others. It can be too easy to pull away from “difficult people.” Often there is reason to do so, yet difficult people can become a catalyst for growth. The more proficiently we extend love to others, the closer we emanate Jesus. This achievement only occurs if we remain in a loving space.
I had to learn this harsh lesson.
To do so, I first created a safe space to formulate healthy, breathable boundaries. Next, I discovered how to love while within this refuge—not an easy undertaking. https://crystalmmhuntley.com/2023/05/how-to-rebuild-your-foundation-and-remain-rooted/ Even so, we are here to master the skill of love. In so doing, we draw closer to Jesus.
We cannot love others without first loving ourselves. Our connection to Jesus rests within us. Healthy boundaries protect us, so the actions of others cannot sever our Jesus connection. Yes, God wants us to love the unlovable, and He also wants us to be loved.
Note To My Readers
May all who indulge in my written creations find entertainment, enjoyment, and education. I also hope to inspire you to move forth in your healing journey.
Hopefully, you have gained value from this blog post. If you have, I would like to offer you the opportunity to purchase my books. You can buy The Hidden Diamond and Robin’s Gift at BUY-the-BOOK https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-. Two additional sites where you can find my books are https://bkbookshoppe.com and https://bizybookstore.com.
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